I Think I Wanna Be a Daydream Believer

The other day my big girl’s tooth fell out and I said automatically, “Just wait for the tooth fairy to come” and she replied, “I know the tooth fairy is just you and babeh (dad) and so is Santa.” I looked at my sweet husband, who had no idea what was going on because hisContinue reading “I Think I Wanna Be a Daydream Believer”

Why Does Yoga Class Always Make Me Cry?

I have a brain that is custom-built for non-stop pondering. Come to think of it, “pondering” seems like too gentle a word for what goes on in my mind. It’s more like a round trip of planning, doubting, freaking out, worrying, appreciating for a moment, and then, bam, worrying, planning, and around and around itContinue reading “Why Does Yoga Class Always Make Me Cry?”

What Not To Pack for Paradise

So the move has been made from Jakarta to Bali. It is official. I live near the beach. Let the fireworks and celebrations begin. Actually, please don’t. I beg you. Have you ever had a plan to go on a great holiday or move somewhere fabulous? Have you ever thought about it for months, imaginingContinue reading “What Not To Pack for Paradise”

It’s Time To Go Out and Play

I think a lot of us have been indoors for too long and this has created an increased level of anxiety about who we are. It seems safer indoors in the comfort of our caves. “The more you care about what others think, the more they own you” – Maria Forleo The quote above stoppedContinue reading “It’s Time To Go Out and Play”

Let’s all be Brazen Hussies

Thanks to a dear friend of mine, I got to watch this fabulous Oz documentary called “Brazen Hussies” which was a celebration of the women of the Women’s Liberation Movement in the 60s and 70s who started the feminist revolution in Australia.  So many parts were utterly infuriating. I watched archival footage of men crowdedContinue reading “Let’s all be Brazen Hussies”

Can Somebody Chop Off My Head, Please?

These last few months in an effort to get to know myself better in these nutty times, I started to track my cycle using the app, Clue. You know how I am obsessed with the damage the patriarchy causes, well, we all know that women have a monthly cycle which patriarchy tells us is grossContinue reading “Can Somebody Chop Off My Head, Please?”

I Am Enough. I Am Cukup.

Have you ever thought about how much time you spend every day disliking yourself? Beating yourself up? Worrying about your misshapen eyes/nose/breasts/butt? Trying to control everything around you by keeping busy? Feeling disappointed in yourself and those around you? Dissatisfied? I read in this great book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Dr Valerie Rein, that womenContinue reading “I Am Enough. I Am Cukup.”

How Mirrors Mess With Our Brains (and why we should use our friends instead)

Have you ever thought about the ways in which what you perceive through your senses can be vastly different from another individual sharing the same space and time with you? We know this for sure with our taste buds; some people lap up the taste of chicken’s feet and goat’s brains and cow’s tongues, andContinue reading “How Mirrors Mess With Our Brains (and why we should use our friends instead)”